When two Virgos come together romantically, their relationship can be intensely passionate yet meticulously organized. As an earth sign known for pragmatism and perfectionism, Virgo approaches intimacy with care and discernment. How sexually compatible are two Virgos? What are the strengths and challenges these analytical perfectionists may face in the bedroom? Let’s explore what makes Virgo and Virgo such an intriguing zodiac match.
Personality in Relationships
Virgos are often misunderstood in relationships. Their perfectionist nature and critical eye leads some to believe they are cold and unemotional. In truth, Virgo feels deeply but expresses love through service and helpfulness rather than grand romantic gestures.
Virgos pay attention to detail. They notice the small things that make their partner feel cared for. Keeping your favorite coffee stocked, tidying up messes, supporting your career goals…these little acts of service are Virgo’s love language.
Virgos also prize stability. While other signs find comfort in emotional intensity, Virgo feels most secure with a steady, predictable partner. Virgos do best with someone who shares their values of integrity, hard work, and commitment. Grand promises mean little to Virgo without the follow-through.
When two Virgos begin a relationship, they slowly build trust by demonstrating reliability. Neither Virgo dives headfirst into intense passion. They carefully assess whether this partner will stick around for the long haul.
Once Virgo’s discerning eye concludes you are in it for the long haul, the earthy sensuality below the reserved surface gets unleashed.
Sexual Compatibility
When two Virgos make it to the bedroom, their earthiness emerges. Hidden beneath the composed, hypercritical exteriors are passionate, sensual lovers. Virgo rules the digestive system, which may sound clinical but points to an earthy energy related to food and the body. Virgos connect carnally.
This grounded sensuality combines with Virgo’s keen powers of observation. Virgo studies every inch of the lover’s form, discovering which touches elicit goosebumps and moans. Slowly but surely, Virgo learns how to expertly pleasure and tease.
Virgos aim for technical proficiency in the bedroom. They put in the time and effort to be outstanding lovers. Virgo is not flashy or performative in bed – rather, Virgo wants to meticulously understand a lover’s body and needs. Pleasing their partner is Virgo’s biggest turn-on.
The downside? Virgo can be too cerebral and critical at times between the sheets. The quest for perfectionism can get in the way of letting loose. Virgo may construct ideals for sexual performance that introduce undo pressure.
With another Virgo, the obsession with technical excellence intensifies. Two Virgos risk spiraling into a tense critique session if their high standards aren’t met. The critical perfectionism of two Virgos can be an Achilles’ Heel.
However, two Virgos also deeply understand one another’s anxieties. Their shared desire for excellence and improvement creates empathy. Virgo appreciates a partner who learns and grows rather than gets complacent.
Communication in the Bedroom
Communication is key to optimizing Virgo and Virgo sexual chemistry. Virgo is ruled by Mercury, planet of communication. Two Virgos are perfectly capable of direct, open conversations about preferences and desires.
This clear communication allows them to constructively critique the other. The criticism centers on how to achieve mutual satisfaction rather than attacking their partner. Two Virgos can bluntly explain needed improvements without hurt feelings on either end.
Outside praise also matters. Virgo wants to hear their efforts delight you. Sincerely complimenting each other’s progress cultivates confidence and bonding. Two Virgos feel closer through recognizing each other’s hard work.
This communicative skill helps Virgo and Virgo discover what makes the other tick. Exploring kinks or creative positions comes naturally when you can knowledgeably explain your curiosities. Privacy and discretion matters though – Virgo despises gossip. Keep intimate talks just between yourselves.
Overall, direct communication allows two Virgos to achieve the level of sexual synchronization they crave. Their shared desire for improvement makes constant conversations about pleasure seem natural, not awkward.
Sexual Intimacy: Expectations
Two have sky-high expectations for their sex lives. They hold themselves and each other to exacting standards when naked together. Where more easygoing signs just go with the flow, they crave excellence between the sheets.
Foreplay matters immensely to two. They expect to fully arouse each other before intercourse through massage, kissing, and manual stimulation. Rushing into penetration fails to satisfy their earthy appetite.
They expect you to understand their body on a deep level too. Know which erogenous zones elicit which reactions. Master which pressure and speed of touch makes them moan involuntarily. Study your lover’s responses.
These expectations of sensual foreplay, touch mastery, and bodily awareness stem from their need for quality over quantity. One incredible, technically impressive encounter is better to them than half-hearted quickies.
It’s not just skill though – they also expect emotional intimacy from sex. Physical and spiritual connection go hand-in-hand. They view sex as a way to express love for the whole person, not just physical release.
These elevated sensual and emotional expectations can intimidate partners who feel unworthy. However, two usually rise to meet each other’s standards. Their shared values around intimacy make the work feel natural.
Sex: Strengths
Two have many strengths as sexual partners. Let’s look at what makes them work well between the sheets:
- Technical Skill: Neither settles for mediocre lovemaking. They put in the effort to excel physically, from stamina to touch. Two often pride themselves on their sexual abilities.
- Open Communication: Their direct, precise communication allows conversations about improving intimacy. Needs and desires get clearly explained.
- Attunement: Both pay close attention to their partner’s reactions, building intimate knowledge of the other’s body and turn-ons. They fine-tune the sexual experience.
- Emotional Connection: Sex is not just physical release to them, but spiritual bonding. Two often intertwine sensual and emotional intimacy beautifully.
- Foreplay Focus: Extended foreplay satisfies their earthiness. Massage, oral stimulation and other erotic build-up comes as naturally as intercourse to this sign.
- Stamina: Their incredible focus translates to sexual endurance. Two easily satisfy each other’s appetites thanks to their diligent stamina.
When two leverage these strengths in the bedroom, the sex lives up to all their elevated expectations. The technical precision gets balanced by emotional intimacy, creating a unique sexual synthesis.
Sexual Challenges
However, it’s not all perfect harmony between the sheets. What difficulties may arise?
- Perfectionism Going Too Far: The shared desire to perfectly perform can make sex feel like a report card. Over-critiquing each other introduces unhealthy tension.
- Repressiveness: They sometimes deny their deeper desires out of propriety or shame. With another, both may stay surface-level and intellectually during sex.
- Low Spontaneity: The preference for scheduled, carefully planned intimacy leaves little room for impromptu creative passion. Spontaneity may be seen negatively.
- Rushed Foreplay: As much as they enjoy foreplay, impatience for intercourse can manifest if they feel pressured to orgasm quickly. Extended arousal gets cut short.
- Fixation on Orgasm: Their perfectionism can hyperfocus on linear climactic goals during sex. The journey of sensual discovery itself matters just as much.
They struggle to let inhibitions and anxieties go sometimes. Their earthy passion stays confined by mental blocks or expectations. With another detail-obsessed, loosening control proves challenging.
However, clear communication can help two navigate these pitfalls. Being fully open about dissatisfaction while also reassuring each other of unconditional acceptance is key. Perfection is impossible – improving satisfaction endlessly together is the healthier mindset.
Keeping Sex Exciting
They flourish with novelty and continuous growth. Complacency is poison to this sign. How do two keep their sex life fresh and exciting amid busy schedules?
- Try New Things: Make a “bedroom bucket list” of new positions, toys, and techniques to sample. Schedule this adventurous intimacy amid routine.
- Extended Sessions: Treat yourselves to indulgent weekends or vacations centered solely around leisurely lovemaking and exploration. Escape daily worries fully.
- Role Play: Their versatility suits role play well. Engage your imagination and theatrical side. Create detailed fantasies to enact. Discuss scenarios thoroughly first.
- Outdoors: Their inhibited side relishes the thrill of outdoor sex – find secluded nature spots. A hint of “forbidden” excitement works wonders.
- Reading: Read erotic books together as foreplay. Discuss which scenes intrigued you afterwards. Explore your voices’ sensual storytelling.
- Massage: Trade leisurely, luxurious massage with scented oils. Worship every inch of each other’s skin and muscle. Arouse slowly and sensually.
- Lingerie: They love visual beauty and details. Indulge in satiny lingerie and luscious textures against the skin. Appeal to all five senses.
When two intersperse their analytical tendencies with playfulness, creativity blooms. Adding novelty and variety prevents bedroom boredom. Stay open-minded and keep evolving together.
Intimacy: Making It Last
For two, a fulfilling sex life relies on clear expectations, excellent technique, and strong bonding. They view physical pleasure as part of a holistic relationship vision.
Some key ingredients for lasting intimacy between two include:
- Shared values about integrity, excellence, and growth in all aspects of the relationship. They commit fully only when assured of alignment.
- Willingness to work as a team, communicate constructively, and put in effort. Complacency destroys intimacy.
- Intimate knowledge of each other’s body and heart. Attunement to a lover’s non-verbal cues comes through care and practice.
- Patience and compassion. Perfection is unrealistic but their high standards need softening, not judgement.
- Playfulness balanced with depth. Laughter, adventurousness and light-hearted fun bolster meaningful sensual connection.
- Cerebral connection but also chemistry. Brains AND bodies must be mutually understood.
- Space for solo time. As much as they enjoy partnership, they need intervals of solitude to recharge their batteries.
When they embrace both the pragmatic and passionate sides of their sign, incredible sexual intimacy can last a lifetime. Mutual understanding, expressiveness, flexibility and devotion satisfy their deepest cravings.
The sexual relationship is intimate, detailed and devoted – when both can move past perfectionism. Their earthy depths and mercurial minds make intriguing partners with nurturing care. Their reasoned passions burn slowly but surely when tended properly. Know your lover’s intricacies and keep communicating. Don’t let impatience or anxiety sabotage natural harmony. At heart they wish to serve their partner selflessly – the secrets lie in applying this generosity between the sheets too.
Reference
Gabriela Health and Sexuality Working Group. “Working Definition of Sexual Pleasure.” Gabriela Health and Sexuality Working Group, 2023, https://www.gab-shw.org/our-work/working-definition-of-sexual-pleasure/.
